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Learning Patience - dealing with children

Assalam alaykum waramatullah wabarakatuhu, Alhamdulilah. This week has been one of gratitude and learning patience. As parents there is no manual on how to handle different situations you find yourself in with regards your child. Some techniques work for one child but has no impact on another. This week we had to speak to our eldest about his behaviour. Unfortunately he repeated the same behaviour the very next day. We changed tack; less shouting more trying to understand what prompted the behaviour. We tried to listen and alhamdulilah the rest of the week went smoothly. I haven't kept up with my reading commitments this week although I listened to about 40 minutes of audiobook. It is difficult to stick to listening a book at a time. If I am listening to a book that is trying to convey ideas it is difficult to always be in the right frame of mind for it every time particularly with children all around. I am also a fan of the Inquiry podcast on the BBC. Please recommend any

Back from a long hiatus

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Bismillah Rahmani Raheem Alhamdulilah I am back after a very long hiatus. The past couple of years has been extremely busy. We are now a family of five (alhamdulilah). I just returned from my brother's wedding in Nigeria. It was a beautiful ceremony and it was great to connect with long lost family, siblings and parents. So much love and barakah.  Still on maternity break and really enjoying it. Allah truly makes things easy. When I was about to have my third child I was worried how I (and we) will cope. My second child was going to turn 2 a few months after the third child arrived. We live in an area with no close family nearby and neither my mum or mother-in-law would be able to come to assist us. I spoke to my big sister who I always speak to in times of need. I call her when I need a voice of reason; a voice to direct me back to my lord. She is someone I trust to help me get out of my head and be grateful. We all need someone like that in our lives.  Her words

Contemplation and Reflection

Assalam alaykum waramatullah wabarakatuhu, Subhanallah it has been four months since I last blogged. I have had quite a busy and interesting time of late. I have been busy with a course which has caused much contemplation and reflection of my life, where it is at the moment and where I would like it to head. Contemplation and reflection is something I hope to incoporate into my life at least on a weekly basis. Recently I listened to a short reminder which mentioned that we are not grateful for the creations of Allah that surrounds us. We have gardens in which beautiful flowers grow, we take a deep breadth and the fragrance fills our lungs but we take it for granted that the flowers grew there. If we took time out to contemplate on our Lord, His creations and our lives then we will be people who are grateful. If we don't reflect and contemplate then we live our lives as if there is no purpose to it, we drift and allow circumstances and events to carry us as if we don't h

Keeping good company

Bismillahi rahmani raheem. Alhamdulilah. I have had an interesting few weeks. I have been guided and the darkness that threaten to overwhelm me as been lifted by the mercy of Allah. May Allah enable us to be of those who return to Him always and may He not cause us to die in a state which He is displeased with us. Ameen. From the occurrences of the past few weeks and life in general is the importance of keeping good company, this cannot be underestimated. Subhanallah what joy is felt in the heart when you are surrounded by happy and positive people. Why are they happy? The connection they have with their Lord is strong and special and they know that although they don't have the power to bear their burden Allah (subhanallah watahala) will take care of it for them. As you observe them you see them content with their faces bright and their demeanour relaxed. You look at them and you wish to feel the same and have the same connection with your Rabb. Although you might not have

Changing and making changes

Asslam alaykum waramatullah wabarakatuhu, I hope and pray this post meets you in the best of health and eeman. Alhamdulilah. Glory be to the one who sees and hears everything. The Lord of all that we see around us, that we have knowledge of or are ignorant of. The past few weeks have been very busy, exciting and stressful (to a lesser degree). Lots of travelling and visits from family members. Alhamdulillah. Lots of self-discovery and reconnection with loved ones and those whom Allah has bound to me through blood. May Allah (subhanahu watahala) enable us to be able to please HIM in every action and draw closer to HIM through ways which HE loves. Ameen. I am excited about a few courses I am due to start online. Read lots of testimonials from others on it and I feel I need every help I can get to boost my eeman and draw me closer to my Lord. Alhamdulilah I have been able to let go of a major distraction in my life. I found it wasn't allowing me to be productive a

Long lost sister blogger

Assalam alaykum waramatullah wabarakatuhu, Today is the 18th of Ramadan 1435. Subhanallah it has been over a year since I last wrote a post. I really cannot explain why I have been away from my blog for so long. Perhaps it is laziness, being more busy in my personal life (mis-management of my time) or the fact that I have been writing almost daily in a paper journal. Life has carried on as normal, people have died and others born. I moved to a different city, started a new job and got carried away with what has been going on in my little world. Alhamdulilah this ramadan has been progressing well and the main goal I had before ramadan is on track. I was excited for ramadan to start. Immersed myself in preparing before hand, reading articles and personal experiences from various sources online on how to ensure you have a productive ramadan and alhamdulilah it has been so (search for productive muslim website). I do not pretend that there haven't been hiccups along the way.

A "Modern" phenomena

Assalam alaykum waramatullah wabarakatuhu. I hope the blog meets you in the best of eeman and health. I watched a programme on TV a few weeks back about Muslim reverts. The presenter was at a loss as to why more British women where coming into Islam from as she put it a “liberal” society to a religion where you “can’t drink”. The presenter describes herself as a modern British Muslim. I kept wondering what being a modern Muslim woman meant. To her being modern included being able to work, loving fashion, leaving your hair uncovered, drinking and going out. Lately I have found the word “modern” to be annoying especially when used alongside veiled Muslim women and integration. I do not know if this word has crept into the Muslims speech due to the pressure we feel to show that we are perfectly capable of integrating into our communities and to show that Islam is not at odds with the British way of life. Why does covering the hair or face and not drinking or going dancing in th